Relationship Politics

[talktooloose]

It seems like letting Snake and Tutu work out their own relationship is the right thing for me to do. Without me running interference, their fights actually escalate a bit louder and higher and then they are forced to talk as adults. When I blunt the edges, it might just delay the discussion they need.

Why does this seem so obvious now?

Do those of you in ltr's ever muse about new lovers? Not necessarily specific ones but the idea of being in a new, fresh and perfectly trouble-free relationship? I've been day-dreaming about this lately. Should I be worried?

Comments

Re: Elle aime tomber amoureuse

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not in a long term relationship and doubt I ever will be. With all the reports of fights and strife, why would i want to be !!!!!???? I hate fighting and don't have the time or energy for it. The last relationship I was in was in Japan. After he raised his hand to me I said "never again" to myself. Not too seriously, but it has come true nonetheless.

Fighting is not necessary and I have never seen any growth from it in the few short term relationships I have had. As far as new romance... Well the term romance, now there is a fantasy :) What many people rarely seem to do is grow into love and to continue to do so. We spend too much time and effort preventing people in our relationships from changing I think.

Cynical Cody-chan

Re: Elle aime tomber amoureuse

[talktooloose.livejournal.com]

Fighting is necessary if two people are going to try and resolve sometimes huge differences in order to have a relationship. The question is, do you know how to fight? Have the two of you learned how to do it so it will lead somewhere constructive? The only alternative to fighting I see is not having a relationship. That may be fine for you, but I wouldn't want that.

Fighting is inescapable in this world. Can you do it so that both parties come out winners? We better learn as a world, or we're doomed. And if two people can't, how will nations?