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talktoolooseNow that the interview meme is dying down, I'm suddenly interested. Will people please ask me five interview questions? ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
scapegoatee! This means you! Others, too.
I'm loving this summer thing so far! The temperature is hanging on in the low 20s with lots of sun. There was the godawful hot day when I was trudging around sick withelatedpawn and redrunner, but other than that, right on target. The garden is peaceful and lovely and we eat out there most evenings. The cooler temps have meant that the neighbours' evil air conditioner hasn't even gone on once.
Snake has calmed down considerably since he found out he didn't get the job. He talked to a friend of his who was teaching in that department. She quit saying it was the worst work situation she'd ever seen.
Well, for years, he's avoiding even thinking about teaching in the public schools, but now that ESL is changing from teaching newcomers to Canada to teaching spoiled rich kids visiting from Asia, he's reconsidering. He found out the good news that the years of teaching at community colleges will count as teaching years for the board of ed and he would start off at the salary level of a teacher whose been there for a decade. He's craving stability and the identity that comes with being the teacher of the same group of kids for a whole year -- building a community with them; making a difference in some kid's life.
The bad news is that the instability will continue for another year. We were planning to go on vacation at the end of September. I was pushing for Italy, specifically Rome, Venice and Florence. But now, he'll probably have to stick around town or lose 6 months of teaching at a college. He's giving the rich kids one more chance before he moves to the public schools. I'm really disappointed. Living with B'rer Rabbit is all fine and good (it really is nice to have a little family under this roof), but I'm craving alone time with my life partner. The five days in New York made me hungry for more.
When Ontario legalized gay marriage last week, Snake joked that we should head down to City Hall. It was a joke at first, because we've never felt that we had to make a public show of our commitment and I don't believe that people have to ape heterosexual marriage (even if they're heterosexual) to justify their relationships. But when Snake said, "let's get married," it felt like a proposal. And we looked at each other and got glassy-eyed and little giggly.
I have a weird life and yet it seems so normal. I live with my life partner and my life partner's boyfriend. Snake is my one and only and I'm really his. If the bunny had to go back to China, we'd cry but we'd move on. (note: the thought of my adopted little brother leaving is making me tear up at the moment). Snake and I have a connection that is so deep and rich and I know it will only be severed by death. And furthermore, the fact of this connection is the only thing that makes me think that there is something beyond death.
Till death do us part? The vow has been made both silently and out loud over tears and in laughter. In sickness and in health? Doubtless. Forsaking all others? Well, we've negotiated past that one already.
But be calm, TTL. We don't have to get married tomorrow (even though it would be politically fun to be in the vanguard). As of today, Parliament is unlikely to appeal the court ruling in favour of same-sex marriages to the Supreme Court. Meanwhile, I'm braced for a lot of homophobic rhetoric that will sweep through the land this week. It will scare me and make me feel unsafe.
scapegoatee! This means you! Others, too.I'm loving this summer thing so far! The temperature is hanging on in the low 20s with lots of sun. There was the godawful hot day when I was trudging around sick with
elatedpawn and redrunner, but other than that, right on target. The garden is peaceful and lovely and we eat out there most evenings. The cooler temps have meant that the neighbours' evil air conditioner hasn't even gone on once.Snake has calmed down considerably since he found out he didn't get the job. He talked to a friend of his who was teaching in that department. She quit saying it was the worst work situation she'd ever seen.
Well, for years, he's avoiding even thinking about teaching in the public schools, but now that ESL is changing from teaching newcomers to Canada to teaching spoiled rich kids visiting from Asia, he's reconsidering. He found out the good news that the years of teaching at community colleges will count as teaching years for the board of ed and he would start off at the salary level of a teacher whose been there for a decade. He's craving stability and the identity that comes with being the teacher of the same group of kids for a whole year -- building a community with them; making a difference in some kid's life.
The bad news is that the instability will continue for another year. We were planning to go on vacation at the end of September. I was pushing for Italy, specifically Rome, Venice and Florence. But now, he'll probably have to stick around town or lose 6 months of teaching at a college. He's giving the rich kids one more chance before he moves to the public schools. I'm really disappointed. Living with B'rer Rabbit is all fine and good (it really is nice to have a little family under this roof), but I'm craving alone time with my life partner. The five days in New York made me hungry for more.
When Ontario legalized gay marriage last week, Snake joked that we should head down to City Hall. It was a joke at first, because we've never felt that we had to make a public show of our commitment and I don't believe that people have to ape heterosexual marriage (even if they're heterosexual) to justify their relationships. But when Snake said, "let's get married," it felt like a proposal. And we looked at each other and got glassy-eyed and little giggly.
I have a weird life and yet it seems so normal. I live with my life partner and my life partner's boyfriend. Snake is my one and only and I'm really his. If the bunny had to go back to China, we'd cry but we'd move on. (note: the thought of my adopted little brother leaving is making me tear up at the moment). Snake and I have a connection that is so deep and rich and I know it will only be severed by death. And furthermore, the fact of this connection is the only thing that makes me think that there is something beyond death.
Till death do us part? The vow has been made both silently and out loud over tears and in laughter. In sickness and in health? Doubtless. Forsaking all others? Well, we've negotiated past that one already.
But be calm, TTL. We don't have to get married tomorrow (even though it would be politically fun to be in the vanguard). As of today, Parliament is unlikely to appeal the court ruling in favour of same-sex marriages to the Supreme Court. Meanwhile, I'm braced for a lot of homophobic rhetoric that will sweep through the land this week. It will scare me and make me feel unsafe.
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Date: 2003-06-17 09:53 pm (UTC)sorry.
*giggles like a schoolgirl*
i'm so sorry. i really did read the post all the way through, i just got excited with the wedding part.
*giggles like a schoolgirl on speed*
so terribly sorry.
As Long as It's Not Yours, eh?
Date: 2003-06-18 08:04 am (UTC);-P
mayor edge??
Date: 2003-06-23 10:33 am (UTC)