The longer version of my theory has to do with which parent you choose to identify with.
Do elaborate.
Is it a stereotype to say I identified with my mother. Well, I did. It would be hard not to, since as a child my attitude towards my father oscillated between contempt and hatred.
Ever had your gaydar go off with a little kid?
Yep.
Anyway, my question wasn't an attempt to bust you, but to draw out the answer. I'm inclined strongly to agree with you, except that I would say that the choices get recapitulated again and again, and the path the three-year old sets out on isn't fixed in granite.
It's rare that the choice takes the form of a conscious decision that, "Oh, I'll be gay," but rather the decision to accept that it is an essential part of who you've become.
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Date: 2003-07-16 08:42 am (UTC)Is it a stereotype to say I identified with my mother. Well, I did. It would be hard not to, since as a child my attitude towards my father oscillated between contempt and hatred.
Yep.
Anyway, my question wasn't an attempt to bust you, but to draw out the answer. I'm inclined strongly to agree with you, except that I would say that the choices get recapitulated again and again, and the path the three-year old sets out on isn't fixed in granite.
It's rare that the choice takes the form of a conscious decision that, "Oh, I'll be gay," but rather the decision to accept that it is an essential part of who you've become.